My husband, poor guy, is determined to “win” the toothbrush-sharing debate. So he has asked me to please clarify the situation by adding in the statement that he asked me which toothbrush was his. He swears I said “the red one.” This is not entirely accurate. My husband talks. A lot. And I like silence. A lot. So as he was puttering around in the bathroom, he was talking and all I could hear was “blah blah blah.” I was in another world. And when I’m in that world? I do a lot of this, “oh, yeah, uh huh, mmm…” And so, I guess if he did ask me which was his, it was more like, “is the red one mine?” And I would have answered, “mmm, okay…” Or something along those lines.
This does not change the fact that I have a boundary: do not use my toothbrush. And we have argued about this boundary many, many times before. I think it is gross. That’s how I feel. I’m not going to change my mind! So don’t act all weepy when I throw away a wet toothbrush that I did not make wet!
Also gross? Brushing your teeth in the shower. Stop doing that, dear husband…
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Love this post cos I can totally relate! My hubby ‘mistakenly’ uses my toothbrush sometimes because he is (self diagnosed)- color blind. Never mind that we have seperate vanities at OPPOSITE ends of a large bath room!!! Is he ‘directionally challenged’ as well? I too, am VERY territorial over my toothbrush AND towel and will fight to the death to protect them. Heck, I don’t even let my two year old son brush his teeth with my toothbrush (which seems to be his only goal in life these days.) Melissa is right, tha’s just gross, husband(s)
Husband, You are right about how you went about getting the wrong toothbrush but Melissa is the winner here. Don’t get your feelings hurt over her throwing a toothbrush away. Think of your toothbrush’s job: to get old, chewed up food out from between your teeth and scrape the plaque off your teeth. For someone else to put that in their mouth is just nasty no matter how you look at it. Of course she kisses you, but I doubt she is trying to pick your teeth while she’s at it. Kissing and toothbrushing? Two totally different things.
I have an issue with stuff that comes out of the mouth… spit, food, loogies, etc. I know it’s MY issue and a weird one at that, but it freaks me out. Always has. Probably always will. Technically, I do “let” my husband brush his teeth in the shower, I just would prefer he didn’t. PS he says thanks for backing him up on that one!
Um, what is so gross about brushing teeth in the shower? I don’t do it because I like the cold water in my mouth, but doesn’t it all go down the drain? Just explain – I’m not saying you’re wrong.
When I saw this last night, I had to ask my husband on how he felt on sharing toothbrushes. After he joked for a little bit (gave me the same comment about kissing), he agreed that it was disgusting and no, he hasn’t and wouldn’t use my toothbrush. I hope your husband understands your way of thinking now.
I see here that the “we kiss don’t we” line of reasoning in my comment in the other post is probably not going to hold up to scrutiny here. Suppose I will go keep silent with husband of… – as logically I can’t seem to grasp how kissing is that much different from using a tooth brush – especially a toothbrush that has been rinsed compared to kissing that may have not had a toothbrush in the cleaning said mouth since sometime that morning.
Sorry, Husband, Melissa wins!
It is disgusting beyond words to share a toothbrush. The function of a toothbrush is to remove plaque, debris, food, etc. from your teeth. That is NOT what you are sharing when you kiss!
This must be a guy thing, because my husband doesn’t bat an eye when he uses my toothbrush “accidentally”!
Had to chime in on this debate! I am completely with you on this one, Melissa. I’ve even had the identical debate with my husband, with him referring to the “but we kiss each other, don’t we?” line of reasoning. Regardless of the motive, intentional or accidental, the toothbrush in question would not be used by me. My husband knows this about me and admits that he just doesn’t understand it. My response? You don’t have to understand it to respect it ( :
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I would think that after spending time with two girls under three most of the day that a little adult conversation is welcome, but as I read here, silence is better.
Gotta go brush my teeth.