Comments on: love & logic

By: Erika

Erika — Mon, 19 May 2008 04:51:38 +0000

Hey Melissa – I HIGHLY recommend Love & Logic for the TODDLER years! It will apply to you MORE than the “bible” you have currently. Which is truly the bible, and you will appreciate it more the older they get, but I STILL use techniques in the TODDLER years for my 7 & 5 year olds. I even gave it to our kindergarten teacher, because she knew she didnt have control of the classroom & I thought, “gosh if she could just say ‘UH OH this is SOOOOO sad….’ ‘ she would grab their attention immediately & everyone would stop. ALl i have to say at our house is “UH OH” & everyone stops to look!! It works!! Check it out!

and for the hubbies – i highly recommend the book on CD – put it on their ipod! I have been known to put on my headset, & organize the entire playroom listening to a Love & Logic CD!

Check out the montly newsletter too – $18 a year i think & its full of good stuff! Take care

PS – your pup’s pictures brought tears to my eyes, she’s absolutely beautiful! ENJOY!!!

By: Kathy

Kathy — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:17:10 +0000

When my daughter turned three, the action really began. The timeouts we were using weren’t working well and so we took a Love and Logic parenting class. The techniques worked great.

Since that time I’ve taught a number of parenting classes to keep up my skills and read numerous books. I tried to capture the best parenting techniques I found in this seven lesson online course:

http://www.PricelessParenting.com/

You can try out lesson 1 for free to see if you like it. My children are now 15 and 12. All the energy we put into parenting when they were young has definitely paid off. You’re on the right track!

By: Everyday Yogini

Everyday Yogini — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 08:48:37 +0000

THANK GOD you posted this. Sometimes I feel like I have absolutely NO IDEA what the heck to do with Clara. I, too, thought I was done with parenting books, but I will definitely order this one! Thank you for the recommendation, Melissa! Time outs are a running joke in our house now. Completely useless.

I have used the term “listening ears” with Clara, asking her to put her listening ears on. She has started telling me when she can’t put them on when she knows we are getting into to deep water… how do you respond to a kid who tells you she is beyond listening??? (except laugh in disbelief that a 3 year old can outsmart you??)

I look forward to reading the book!!

By: Shannon (Cole Mine)

Shannon (Cole Mine) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 03:10:03 +0000

We are in the same place with our 3 year old…The book is on my dresser and I’ve read just the beginning…Time outs aren’t working for us either- Hopefully we’ll find some insight in this way of parenting.

By: Starr

Starr — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 01:56:23 +0000

I think you will REALLY be into the Love and Logic program. I have a girlfriend who has children that are so well behaved and polite that I was prompted to ask “How DO YOU DO IT?”, and she told me about the program. Now if I can just be consistent about it….Parenting is not for sissies!

By: monkeysparkets

monkeysparkets — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 00:43:35 +0000

Oh Lordy, are we in the same situation. My oldest is going to be three on Thursday and it seems like a few weeks ago, out of the blue, time outs stopped working. It’s like she realized that that was my “big gun”. I had nothing left! This week we started using a marble jar, and we have seen a big improvement. Every good behavior earns a marble in her jar, and bad behavior loses a marble. We have a few special toys we use as rewards for earning “x” amount of marbles. I guess it sort of is bribery, but it also helps her realize there are consequences to her actions. Keep us posted on the book, I need all the help I can get!

By: erin

erin — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 00:27:45 +0000

I’m going to have to check that book out as P is nearing one and I’m sure I will need all the help I can get!

By: ~M

~M — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 23:44:43 +0000

I love that you referenced Berkeley Parents Network…I used BPN all the time with my first pregnancy (as I was living in closer proximity to Berkeley at the time), but I still find them a great resource.
Time outs aren’t really working for us right now, either. Especially because Xander has taken to saying, “I was going to have time out!” as a way of stalling and not doing what we’re asking him to do (put on shoes, go up the stairs, etc.)
I just ordered the Love and Logic book and am going to look into a class in my area. Thanks for the tip, Melissa! Let us know how the class goes.

By: Jaina

Jaina — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 22:08:29 +0000

Sounds pretty neat. I wish you the best of luck. I’ll have to keep this in mind later on.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:43:30 +0000

I love that you don’t try to act like you know it all. I eat up parenting books (haven’t tried a class yet) because I know there are different ways of doing things than how I’m doing them. You have to find what works for Pea and your family — and you will. Pea knows you love here and are there for her, which HAS to be the baseline for any good parenting!