new traditions are born every night…

Pea is not a baby anymore. Nor a toddler. Her age group is referred to as “preschooler.” That’s a mouthful. And anyway, in my eyes, my little Pea is a kid. Not a preschooler. But a bona fide kid.

She calls me mom. Mom. As in, “thanks, mom.” What happened to mommy? I miss those days.

As she grows, she’s turning into quite the social butterfly. She wants to know, every morning, what’s on the docket for the day. Ballet? Playdate? School day? Skiing? Where are we going? What are we doing?

And while I am enjoying having a little more slack opened up on that leash that has been connecting Pea to her mommy (excuse me, mom) for the last nearly-four years, I am having some bittersweet moments, too.

My husband thinks it’s absurd that I should already be worrying about what’s going to happen when she’s off on her own, falls in love with the man who will become her husband, and once wed, sets out for greener pastures in which to raise her own family. Greener pastures being, of course, across the country from me. Her mommy. Her mom.

I miss her already. So much it hurts. And I know, it’s ridiculous to waste any time thinking about those days ahead. But I’m guessing it’s a mother thing? Right? It has to be. Because I cannot be the only woman – mother – out there who is thinking about the path ahead. The path that might some day lead her child away from her? Right?

Anyway, we’re forging ahead with new family traditions. Building fond memories that will find our girls seated at their own dining room tables, with their small children sitting across from them, over supper. Music in the background, laughing at the stories of life in their home growing up, with Grandma and Grandpa. The nightly pushing-away of the great room coffee table, for the post-dinner family disco-dance. To Pea’s song. “Dancing Queen.” Yes, she’s an ABBA fan. Aren’t we all? If not? We should be. But I digress. That’s one of our new traditions. Dancing. I did it with my mother, and now my girls are doing it with me. Leaving the dirty dishes on the table, heading into the great room, pushing the coffee table into the corner, turning on ABBA at full-blast, and dancing until we drop. And on nights when Daddy is home, he boogies down at the Family Disco, too. In fact, we’ve all come to look forward to that short time, post-dinner, pre-bed, when we get to burn off the last of our energy; sing at the top of our lungs and do the Hustle.

Good times.

And now, I’m preparing for… Family Game Night.

I’ve been waiting for this night. For a long, long time. It’s been something of a dream of mine. Kind of a simple girl, that way. It doesn’t really take much.

Yup, we’ve played a little Candy Land here and there. But I’m looking for more. Uno! Operation! Chutes & Ladders! Life! Monopoly! Hungry Hungry Hippos! Twister! I just want them all, those games of my own childhood. Stacked up neatly in the family room closet. And then, come Thursday night, it’s… Pizza! Popcorn! Games!

And we’re so close now. The way these girls are morphing – before our eyes – into people. We are so close to Family! Game! Night!

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8 Comments on “new traditions are born every night…”

  1. Jaina said:

    Dancing Queen is quality stuff. You’re teaching them well ;)

    I LOVE family game nights, I hope you get to have yours soon :)

  2. Ann said:

    I, too, am on the edge of my seat for family game night. We’ve just started having a family puzzle night in anticipation….I’m thinking this summer it will be full fledged game night. :smile:

  3. Allison said:

    My little boy calls me “Da Da”. I have yet to even reach the “mommy” stage:-). You are such a wonderful mother; an example to us all. If every family had game night once a week, what a different world this would be!

  4. erin said:

    i am too looking forward to family game night but it’s still a few years away…..
    i can’t imagine petunia not calling me mama. how sad when that day comes :cry:

  5. Debbie said:

    My kids have already selected me as the #1 sitter for my grandkids. No guarantees that it will keep them close to home when they marry (they are 5 and 10), but I can always hope.

  6. Janet said:

    I get emotional about this very topic, usually as I watch them sleep. Their faces so peaceful and content and just to think that there is a tough world out there waiting for them.The thought of them growing up and spreading their wings is unbearable. I wish I can have them with me forever but I know that would be selfish on my part to think that way. However I do hope that as grownups they will remain close to us and that our bond will be strong. As for dancing, we do a lot of dancing around here. My kids started moving to the beat early on. Ha!! And family game night sounds like a great idea. Hey, have you tried any of those ‘cooperative board games’? A girlfriend of mine purchased a couple from childandnature.com and she and her children love them. I thought about getting one for my daughter. Great post Melissa!!

  7. Tara said:

    You’re not alone. I worry about that too — all the time lately! My oldest just turned 6 today and had her ears pierced. And even though she held her mommy and her teddy bear the whole time, I couldn’t help but feel like it was one step closer to being “all grown up” for real. *sniff sniff*

  8. Michelle Meyer said:

    Boy, Melissa…your posting just brought tears to my eyes because this is precisely what I have been dealing with as well with my oldest (who is 3.5). When did I suddenly become “Mom??” It hurts your heart a bit. My husband is currently deployed to Iraq until the end of June, so family game night for us (which typically consists of Go Fish or High-Ho Cherry-O) has been a necessity lately (it passes the time, it provides stability and structure, we laugh – very therapeutic right now). My sister does the family dance night with her girls – mainly to the Madagascar soundtrack with the song “I like to move it move it” turned WAY up. She swears it tires the kids out and they sleep like logs. I may have to try that…….. :wink:

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