Comments on: it’s all relative…

By: Jaina

Jaina — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 23:15:54 +0000

I hope you get some sleep. ::hugs::

By: Liz

Liz — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:52:52 +0000

I’m impressed anyone can sleep with a kid in their bed! Six years ago, my husband and I stayed with my niece on and off for 3 weeks when she was 3 and my sister was in the hosptial with a high-risk pregnancy and her husband was traveling for work. My niece would come into bed with us early in the morning and we could barely sleep after that – her legs were everywhere and her kicks would keep us awake.

I just assumed all kids were restless sleepers after that experience, so I’ve made sure our son (just turned 2) never joined us in bed – although he hasn’t exactly showed an interest yet. I agree that whatever lets you all sleep is best – they won’t stay in bed with you forever. I just didn’t realize that co-sleeping actually worked. I’ve only heard from friends who were eager to get their kids to sleep on their own so they could get a good night’s sleep. But if everyone is sleeping, what’s the problem?

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 14:33:02 +0000

I know what you mean and our daughter stays up late (10pm) thanks to her daddy being home with her in the morning and wanting her to sleep in. I have to get up early so I can either stay up later trying to get her to sleep in her own bed, or just take her to bed when I get tired.

My other argument to myself is that when she is 13 and hates me and wants me to leave her alone I will long for the days when she wanted to snuggle with me at night. Plus as you say, as long as I am sleeping I don’t care where she sleeps.

By: Mary Elizabeth

Mary Elizabeth — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 13:16:10 +0000

I think of it this way. It is primal to want to sleep w/ your mom and dad when you are little. They are your protectors and keep you safe. We have the Victorians to thank for children being seen and not heard oh and cribs too! My 9 yr old stopped around 4 1/2. He claimed he needed his own space. :0) My younger 2 bed hop. The way I see it if it works for you and everyone gets rest. Go for it. PS I always love your advice thanks for taking mine.

By: Court

Court — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 19:25:34 +0000

Sleep issues are so hard. We constantly go back and forth with our two year old and I watched my sister battle her son with it as well. I would ignore all the those giving advice, y’all are in the trenches of it and know best what it’s like day to day. I think some kids just are never good sleepers and all you can do is the best you can.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 01:40:50 +0000

This sounds like our house!! I am so sorry that you aren’t getting any sleep, wow I know a little bit about that. I’ve got a friend who reverses the door knobs and locks her kids in their rooms if they won’t stay in bed. I’ve never had the heart to do that, but my friends kids stay in their rooms now. In fact, she tells them its time for bed and they just go to bed. How great would that be?

Hope you get some sleep tonight!

By: Mythily

Mythily — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 15:26:29 +0000

Melissa,
I’ve been reading your posts for at least a year, and have drawn so much inspiration, joy and more than a few laughs from your wonderful blog! You’ve given me so much, the last two posts made me want to reach out and try to give something back in return. You’re a fantastic mom, a wonderful wife and just know that you’ve made so many people’s day (many of whom you don’t even know existed, like me!) So shelve the books, make yourself a hot cup of tea, cuddle up with your adorable tykes and check out this site… I think you’ll really enjoy it! http://www.feltcuisine.com/

Here’s hoping you got that sleep last night… I’ve been there (still am, with an 18mo old and a 4.5yo!) … so hang in there, chiquita!!!! (PS yes we just let them sleep w/us now- I decided a short while ago that if all animals in nature do it, and we the human race did it until 100 years ago, it can’t be wrong so to heck w/the books… ) anyway *HUGS* and hope you enjoy the crafts slideshows above!

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 20:22:17 +0000

Well, I’ve never met a teenager that still slept with her parents so you know it can’t go on forever. But seriously, if it’s one less thing for you to worry about – one thing off the list – then let it go. Having Pea in the bed doesn’t make you an imperfect parent. In fact, it confirms how wonderful you are. Because if you weren’t she wouldn’t want to be near you at all.

By: Nona

Nona — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 07:44:27 +0000

Sweet dreams, Melissa. I hope you sleep well…

we let Clara stay in our bed, because I refuse to fight her on it. Why? I WANT TO SLEEP!!! Some of her classmates are starting to have sleepovers (AT FOUR????? That’s Italy for you!) and I’ve made it very clear to Clara, no sleepovers for her until she is in her own bed, all the time.

It will happen. I’m certain they won’t be in bed with us when they are, oh, say 10 or 11. Right??

Wishing you all the best….